What Do You Think He Had to Say?
Unless you live under a rock, you've heard of the tragic story of Yvette Cade
, the 32-year-old woman who was set on fire by her estranged husband at a T-Mobile store in Prince George's County. I wasn't able to catch her appearance on yesterday's Oprah, but some friends did and all agreed that her story is a very touching one. Praise God that it's also a victorious one because Yvette did not have to be alive today!At any rate, I just finished reading the article about her "tale" in the Metro section of today's The Washington Post, and while her entire story is touching and inspiring and very sad, something stood out as I read:
"Cade said she has had no contact with Hargrave since he attacked her. Two days before his trial, though, she got a call from jail and believes he was trying to reach her.
'Ten forty-seven at night, I get a collect call from a correctional institute. I couldn't believe it,' Cade said. 'What would he have to say to me? I was supposed to be dead.' "
I don't know why, but this struck a nerve with me...because I'm wondering too, what would he have to say to her? The nerve of him to call her after he did what he did. And I don't just mean setting her on fire; I'm talking about physically abusing her in the first place. I guarantee you he wasn't calling to apologize, and if I'm being presumptious, so what. Through all I've heard, and by the mere fact that he was capable of going to her job and dousing her with gasoline and putting a lighter to her back in the first place, he doesn't strike me as the apologizing type.
I really don't know why this has upset me so, and I'm trying not to lose sight of the fact that Yvette is still alive. And again, I thank God for that. But why did he have to go and call her? And I wonder what he had to say to her.
Yvette and her family are in my prayers. May God continue to bless and keep her.
posted by MrsNotYourMomma @ 12:16 PM
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I heard about the story but I honestly couldn't read the papers or watch the news to get all the details. Stuff like this just terrifies me.
Can I ask this...what was she doing when he was pouring gas on her? I mean I know it isn't her fault but I tried to imagine this happening and I can't put the pieces together.
This man is clearly sick, beyond anything we could ever comprehend. I know she is alive and that is a blessing but what kind of life will she have now? Just so hard for me to talk about without getting full of tears so I gotta stop!
@ rd - Twin, I know. It's horrible and she has a website where she pleads with women who are in an abusive relationship to GET OUT. Stop thinking about it and JUST DO IT! I can't imagine it.
Today's article, she talked about what she was thinking while it was happening. She wasn't. She said (paraphrasing) it didn't really register. He poured the gasoline from a Sprite bottle, and she was trying to remain calm so that her customers wouldn't panic or think anything was wrong. Then next thing you know, he was behind her with a lighter. (shrug)
That Oprah interview had me boo-hoo'n. Not only was she courageous for coming out for all the world to see but you could tell what type of spirit this woman has. She said she has a "different kind of beauty now" and I think that is what touched me most. She said she knows what pretty is but now she has a different kind *profound*. The video footage showing the husband dousing her was surreal. But to be honest, I saw myself in her situation. I'm like ok, if I hadn't have gotten out when I did, was my ex capable of such horror? Who knows. I mean you just never know with people today. And like she said on Oprah, her fault may have been she tried to see the good in people and sometimes that came be what kills you. So sad but the God I serve is merciful and is faithful in all things.. I have no doubt she will be ok. Oh she also said "maybe this is my calling".. I don't know if I could be as brave as she is. I thank God for her.
Ladies...I hate hearing stories like that. All comes down to my penis envy theory. No other man will pleasure thy spouse even if the brotha doesn't want to be with her or vice versa.
No one really knows what went down between them to cause this man to douse her in flames. Either way he was a coward for doing it. Afraid of the possibility that another penis would pleasure his wife.
Brothas need to get a grip and sista's need to start paying attention. Real men don't abuse or put their womwn down. They support whatever decision a woman makes even if could mean the end of their relationship. Its only fair cause women have been doing that for years.
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