Feeling Guilty in South New Jersey

I had an affair with a married man several years ago. It ended, and now I am friends with his wife. I want very much to tell her about the affair because I feel so guilty about it. I see her every day. She has joined the same church I go to, put her kids in the same school as my kids, and we go to all the same parties and have the same friends. Everyone knows about the affair except her, and I feel uncomfortable every time I talk to her husband or when conversations arise regarding cheating. I know I'll feel more comfortable around her if I get this off my chest. Should I tell her?

Leslie says...

No you should not tell her. You only want to tell her so that you feel better, but in turn, you will make her feel horrible. And that's not cool. If you want your adulterous conscious cleared, go talk to a priest or minister or somebody whose profession is to hear confessions. But don't ruin "your friend's" life with this old information. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, and this is one of those times.