Desperate in Detroit

I'm a 20-year-old college student caught in a turmoil of emotion. My parents were divorced two years ago. It left my mother and me on our own. Not long after, to my great joy, my mom was back in the dating world. I was shocked the night Mom brought one of her dates home to meet me. She later explained that it was time for me to become aware of her new lifestyle. She was now living her life as a lesbian, and I had to accept it. I immediately moved in with my father and refused to return my mother's phone calls. I miss her, but I can't come to terms with this. What should I do?


Leslie says...


What should you do? Try not being so judgmental. She is still your mother. So what, she wants to date women now. Does that negate all that she has been to you? I would hope not. If you feel this strongly about it, try talking to your mom. Tell her how you feel, and start by apologizing for the wreckless treatment of her feelings. You don't just up and move out like she has the plague, or has done something wrong to you. In time, you may be able to come to terms with her new lifestyle. If you never do, however, you are free to feel how you want. But don't completely sever the relationship with her. She will always be your mother...and most times, you only get one.