Patient in California

For the last year I have been involved with a lovely woman who has been separated from her husband for two years. Although she seems to care a lot for me and my son, she has not yet accepted my proposal of marriage. Her husband comes around several times a month to do work around the house and even balances her checkbook for her. They own several pieces of property together and both have good incomes. I have expressed my concern about what is keeping her from going ahead with a divorce. She claims she's waiting for her husband to file -- and he's not ready yet! I say they're both hanging on to each other because neither of them is ready to move on with their lives. Should I wait? Or should I give up and hope to meet someone who is available for a nice guy who has a lot of love to share?

Leslie says...

Please! Your girlfriend is still very much married and you need to wake up and realize that she is never going to divorce him. If she wanted to, she would have done it already. Should you wait? If you want to continue being used and made to look like a fool, then be my guest. But I would much rather see you tell the no good tramp good riddens, and move on to a woman who can be a better example of a step-mother to your son, and someone who will reciprocate the love you give.