Straight From a Queen Himself

Yesterday, we went out for my mother-n-law's birthday. Over dinner, my sister-n-law told us the story of a friend of hers who was engaged to a man. She had plans with a girlfriend of hers to go out. When she got to the girlfriend's house, the girlfriend started complaining that she didn't have anything to wear, and so she was no longer going out. My sister-n-law's friend said, then, that she would go on back home. When she got back to the townhouse that she shared with her fiance, she went upstairs to the bedroom and walked in on her man getting served by another man.

Fast forward all the trauma, and throwing up and professional help the girl did/sought - eventually, she confronted the guy her fiance had been sleeping with. Not angrily, but as part of her therapy, I guess, she wanted to get some feelings off her chest, and also find out how come she didn't know her intended was gay. The guy, she found out, had his own feelings to release and told her that he, too, was heartbroken and mad that his man had been dishonest with him. "He was supposed to be a queen like me," he told her. *blank stare*

During the conversation/confrontation, the girl finally asked him why didn't she know their man was gay. The first question he asked her was whether he was an upper or an under when they had sex. The girl had no idea what he was talking about, and when she let her confusion be known, the queen laughed and told her that was the problem with us women. You all don't know what signs to look for.

Well, my feelings about men on the DL aside, his statement struck a nerve with me because for the most part, he's right. And this fact both frightens and annoys me. Why should women have to look for signs? Why can't men just be honest? I don't want to hear about men being confused and unsure of their sexuality. Bullshyt! If you're not sure, leave women alone. If you don't know who you want to bed, don't bed anybody until you find that issh out. And for god's sake, if you know you have sexual desires for a man, be with a man and leave women the hell alone!

At any rate - because I'm not going to turn this into another blog about DL men (dayum liars) - my sister-n-law has invited this queen to her upcoming Ladies' Night. He's going to talk candidly about the signs that your man is gay. Now, I understand this will all be his opinion, but opinion or fact, I'll be there! No, I don't have any suspicions about my Chocolate Bear, but I am absolutely, 100% curious what this man has to say. My heart goes out to my sister-n-law's friend and other women like her. And if I can learn anything Saturday from this queen to help prevent another incident like this - because you know I'll be sharing what he says - then I'll feel like I've done a little something to combat this sick attack against women.

DurtyMo, Freckleface, Sandybaby, Babybear, Angel, Boston's Finest and Twin, if you want to check it out with me, let me know. It starts at 4:30 this Saturday. She's going to have more than just him there - but we're going to share thoughts on relationships, education, spiritual growth and finances. She's going to have a representative from World Financial Group to talk about investment opportunities. I ain't gon lie, though - I just want to hear about these signs straight from a queen himself! Because men be trippin!