Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Naked


Genesis 2:25 - And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

This passage was turned into a session during my premarital counseling. One of its meanings - where relationships are concerned anyway - was that beyond the physical, Adam and Eve were able to bare themselves to each other, down to their souls, without being judged, criticized or condemned. Whatever Eve was feeling, she could completely reveal that to Adam...no matter how hard it was for her, no matter if it might hurt Adam. And vice versa. They were both naked and not ashamed. In counseling, the question was asked: can you be naked and not ashamed with CB, and CB, can you be the same towards NYM? The issue wasn't whether we said yes or no, but just to illustrate a level of relationship that can be that deep, and to have us ponder whether we thought it was possible.

No. I don't. I don't think you can ever be completely naked and unashamed. I don't care how much you love each other, trust each other, and don't want to hurt each other. There are just some things that a person cannot reveal to their significant other. There are some things that no matter how nice you say them, they're going to hurt. They're going to be misunderstood. And you're going to be judged and criticized. There are some things that you need to take to Jesus and Jesus alone. Some things don't warrant disclosure at all. Sometimes, it's imperative that you keep clothes on and suffer the consequences. Right?

Even if it's not a marital relationship, but a friendship or some other bond - can you ever be naked and not ashamed? Better yet, should you?